TKOG Who swaps blessings with street prophets

by That Kind of Girl on July 29, 2010

NTKOG #230: The kind of dewy-eyed monk wannabe who takes a moment to celebrate religious zealotry in all of its occasionally annoying streetside guises.

I am: basically a heathen. Sorry, twelve-years-ago Sunday School teacher!

I am not: at all an enemy of religious dudes. I just have a hard time relating to anyone with unshakable convictions that don’t involve literature or pizza toppings.

The Scene: Across the street from the Boston Public Library, heading home after an evening of writing. On the corner, a man swaddled in a dusty orange robe stood, grinning calmly at pedestrians, holding out a thick book.

When I was eight years old, I mistook my first Hare Krishna for a man dressed as the Little Caesar Pizza mascot. In the intervening years, our relations haven’t much improved.

The pedestrians passing the man stepped around him with that practiced urban disinterest. Yet in the four or five minutes I watched him, his smile only grew warmer with each snub. He was late thirties, perhaps, but younger in face and older in body.

As he gently pushed the book toward each cluster of pedestrians, the skin of his back rippled slightly through the backless robe. From the way the skin hung, you could see his body was once significantly fuller, but now it lay barely stitched onto the bone.

Finally, I walked up to him and caught his eye, smiling hard. If I were him, I’d have been surprised to be approached after all that rejection, but he nodded calmly back like it was inevitable.

“What book are you giving out?” I asked, and he lit up, flipping through a vanity-printed copy of the Bhagavad Vita, peppered with full-gloss illustrations.

He told me about the book, growing more excited with every sentence, clauses getting tangled with one another. Again and again, he flipped back to the pages of full-color illustration, proud like a little boy, as though he’d etched each color plate himself.

“I’ve been meaning to get a copy of the Bhagavad Vida,” I told him, “but I don’t have any cash on me. Let me go get some and I’ll come back.” I headed to the nearby 7-eleven and withdrew some money, getting a twenty broken into fives to cover the ten-dollar book fee.

When I walked back to the man, cash in hand, he actually did look surprised. He handed me the book and I handed him $15 — a little extra, to cover someone who maybe wanted one but couldn’t afford the whole price, I’d like to hope.

As I descended into the subway, I looked back at him in the almost fully faded light. And there he stood as before, getting ignored by the general public but still trying, trying, trying.

The Verdict: So, street-corner religious dudes: not all crazy? Maybe just devoted and trying to reach out to people who want to be reached? This much I can definitely say for the man: he in no way tried to convert me. A fact which — as is so often the case — did more to support his cause in my mind than anything he could have said.

Anyway, I was being honest with the man: I really have been meaning to buy a copy of the Bhagavad Vida, ’cause I figure any book recommended by both Thoreau and the Dalai Lama is good enough for me. I like that now I have a copy with a little memory to it, and with a reminder not to judge people even when they’re putting themselves out there to be judged.

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TKOG Who isn’t going to take it

by That Kind of Girl on July 28, 2010

Guys! I’m so excited by the response to the PO Box! I got lots of great comments and emails and, once I have a few days to make logistical calls, expect an email from me. If you don’t know what I’m talking about or aren’t sure if you might be interested (in using it, even if you don’t want to make a donation), then check it out here.

Over on Secret Society of List Addicts, check out a few split-second decisions that tempt me on a daily basis but would undoubtedly ruin my friggin’ life.

NTKOG #229: The kind of self-confident master of her own domain who is good enough, smart enough and, goddamnit, will tell off a jerk who has it coming.

I am: kind of on the meek side. One of those people who convulsively apologizes just for walking in your path or — heaven forfend! — accidentally breathing on you.

I am not: meek because of any great gentleness or sweet nature. Perish the thought. I usually just have a hard time realizing when I have the right to be angry.

The Scene: My apartment, at a quarter past eight, booking it for the bus to work. Because I’ve been waking up early to clean my apartment, I’d spent the past hour or so attacking all the nebulous to-recycle junkmail and magazines that had accumulated in every crevice of my apartment. So I was feeling mighty accomplished to bustle out the door, carrying two full trash bags of rejected papers.

On the way out, ran into my super. “What day is it?” he barked at me.

“Wednesday,” I chirped, positively seething virtue.

“And do you know what day the trash gets collected?” he demanded.

“Uhhh, Wednesday, I think?” Not even nine in the morning and already, in the eyes of the world, I was faltering.

As my super stared at me with scorn and pity, I swear I could see the blood floating up like lava lamp bubbles to the swollen anger-vein in his forehead.

“Then why are you putting your trash out now?! It’s already been picked up! What are you thinking of?!” As he lathered himself up to righteous wrath, he leaned his whole body into the doorway separating me from the staircase — and the world beyond, the one where I needed to get on a damn bus. And then he really launched into it.

A word about my landlord. Dude is, for starters, super-Soviet. And while he’s a generally nice man, because of some combination of my age and gender, he seems to assume my life is the epicenter of some moral depravity the depths of which he can’t even fathom. I mean, me! Sure, I may have cut a few lines of fleur-de-sel in the bathroom once but, dude, I donate to charity! I eat organic! I go to the library every friggin’ day.

Then again, this is the man who blames every broken thing in my apartment — from broken locks to leaky faucets to burned-out lightbulbs — on my “many gentleman visitors”. Like, heads-up, sir? The only man who’s been in my bed this year is PG Wodehouse. And seeing as how he’s been dead for forty years, something tells me he wouldn’t be too interested in my faucets, leaky or otherwise.

After the super had screamed “inconsiderate” twice, I put the garbage bags down and settled in for the long haul. When he started yelling so loudly that two neighbors poked their heads out the door to see what was going on, I pulled out my iPhone and hit the stopwatch.

Five minutes and thirty-eight seconds. For five-minutes and thirty-eight seconds, he accused me of being inconsiderate, ungrateful, lazy, a secret basement-hygiene saboteur.

Normal TKOG would have started apologizing ten seconds in and — in all honesty — probably be out on the street already. Sure, I did nothing wrong, but an apology is cheap and doesn’t hurt anyone. But, dude, is it so very wrong to admit when you’re not in the wrong?

Finally, when he’d reached the greatest swell of his rage, he paused for breath, and I cut in:

“Hey, you know how I pay rent every month? Well, if you want me to keep on doing that, you need to let me go right now so I can get to work.” He sputtered angrily, as I passed, then turned back: “And next time? You should probably calm the fuck down.”

The Verdict: Dude, I think that’s the first time in my life I’ve ever cursed at an actual (non-parent) adult. Crazy. Not that I’d do that part of it again, but the rest? Okay.

A coda to the story: a few days later, I ran into him in the foyer, and he apologized for losing his temper. And normal TKOG would be so thrilled by the spirit of reconciliation that she’d be practically heimleiching out all the apologies stuck in her throat. But stuck to my no-apologies rule.

“I understand and I accept your apology, but I think you’ll find I’m a reasonable person. Next time you want me to do something, please ask nicely.”

Frig yeah! No apologies! Not ever! Except, actually, still probably sometimes! Or even most of the time! But I think I’m going to make more of an effort to apologize when I’ve done something wrong, and not just continue my current path of ceaselessly apologizing just for being alive.

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