Comments on: TKOG Who … pounces on her prey before they have time to blink

By: Jay

Jay — Thu, 17 Mar 2011 01:14:16 +0000

I have experienced love at first sight. We were inseparable for a week and then he moved to California :( He termed it as “mutual infatuation at first sight”.

By: Rachael

Rachael — Mon, 07 Dec 2009 01:26:58 +0000

I’ve been really busy lately and I’ve missed reading your blog! To answer your question, yes I believe in first sight. Have I truly experienced it? Not quite, but in my two major relationships, we had that spark within minutes of meeting each other. It’s an amazing energy, isn’t it? And it makes you act in ways you normally wouldn’t. The more I brood about something, especially guys, the more I shy away from it. Acting in the “first sight” moment, is all you with nothing on the outside influencing your actions.

p.s. Fun experiment! Being the new girl in town, I wish I had the guts to try it. My social life would be a lot more fun. lol.

By: Muscles

Muscles — Fri, 04 Dec 2009 21:26:36 +0000

Hmmm, seems like correlation and causation confused here. It’s the confidence of *the kind of person* who immediately approaches that is sexy, not the speed of the approach itself.

By: That Kind of Girl

That Kind of Girl — Fri, 04 Dec 2009 20:27:58 +0000

I mean, dude, were it guaranteed to find me a guy with whom I am as good as match at you two kids, I would TOTES DO IT. You guys are like the platonic ideal of a love that is pure and true like a Savage Garden song. Which is obvi the only yardstick by which true love can be measured.

By: Justice

Justice — Fri, 04 Dec 2009 17:49:37 +0000

That’s the best approach!

By: The Ex

The Ex — Fri, 04 Dec 2009 02:19:44 +0000

TKOG alluded to it, but just to be clear, the 3-second rule I read about was primarily a way to be confident — don’t give your analytic Hamlet mind time to get nervous or come up with excuses. And then there are some other major benefits: what TKOG said, that you’ll never seem like you’ve been creepily eying her from across the room; also there’s the dartboard principle (the more darts you throw, the more likely you’ll hit a bullseye).

I do hope to put my Hamlet self through this strategy some time soon.

By: JetJackson

JetJackson — Fri, 04 Dec 2009 01:46:03 +0000

The Thunderbolt. Un colpo di fulmine. Courtesy of the Godfather.

I have had this 4 times in my life. One time worth telling is when I was working in Dublin as a recruitment agent. A French girl came in for an interview and it turned out she had lived in the same city as me back in Australia. Her name was Ophelie, she was intelligent, quirky, funny, tall, beautiful, piercing blue eyes with that French accent. Standard interviews would last 30 minutes and I pushed out my other scheduled interviews so I could talk to her for another half hour. It was instantaneous and we were both smiling those infectious smiles, laughing and flirting. It was obvious to both of us. She emailed me the next day to say she had been offered a job elsewhere. I felt I couldn’t do anything for fear of losing my job (during economic downtime, as an expat with no support network, losing your job means you generally have to fly home). So I left it. Then one day I was walking home from work and I bumped into her in the street, again the connection, butterflies in the stomach, but I didn’t do anything about it as I was still worried about my job. About 2 months later I told one of my colleagues who put it in perspective for me. So I emailed Ophelie asking about how her job was going… something that I could back out of. She emailed straight back inviting me to a party at her house. We ended up kissing at the party and dating for a little while but for all those feelings, those real world issue like being from different countries bring you back down to earth pretty quickly. Still, that was the second time it ever happened and it taught me that it can and will happen again, but it does not happen often, so when it does you have to go for it.

By: Muscles

Muscles — Thu, 03 Dec 2009 21:57:27 +0000

What Would Muscles Do? Text a friend about her cute friend from far away on the balcony at a party to see if she’s available. The rest is history…

Skulking is great, maybe you’re just not doing it from far enough away? Anyway, I don’t peg you for the Kind of Girl who would be interested in a guy she met at a bar – that you’d prefer seeing if a conversation worked first. But I guess that’s why your blog has the title it does.

By: redhead

redhead — Thu, 03 Dec 2009 20:41:20 +0000

I’ve had the “fall to your knees, praise be the heavens” love about three times in my life. Unfortunately, it was not reciprocal.

The only perfect love is unrequited love.

By: LiLu

LiLu — Thu, 03 Dec 2009 18:32:06 +0000

I am a total vomit-inducing victim of “the second I saw him, I knew”.

And I am so stealing “almost lethal chemistry”. LOVES IT.